Its been awhile since I updated..

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Posted at 6:40 PM

FROM LOVERS to FRIENDS
in many relationships that don't end in marriage (well actually even then), there usually is a time when you have to say "hasta la vista baby." the two of you have shared memories together that when you look back upon, you will either laugh or cry. but whatever that memory might be, once a relationship ends, it's time to say "thanks" or "no thanks" for everything and move on.
but somewhere along the line, there's always the "let's remain friends" compromise to many breakups. it's the much gentler way of saying, "hey, you're not that bad. it's not you. it's me. but look, i still want to be friends with you." *smile* the question that my friends and i discuss a lot is:
can you be good friends with your ex?
ok. let's face it. whenever there's a breakup, it's usually never mutual. usually one person is the one that causes or initiates the breakup and is labeled "heartbreaker", while the other person is left hurting and dwelling on the breakup for weeks on end. ok. i admit. even the heartbreaker could hurt too, but usually the one who initiated the breakup moves on faster than the one who didn't.
after having meditated and burned incense on this question, my friends and i have come to the conclusion that NO, it's very rare for many people to become truly good friends with their ex's.
take me for example. although my ex and i agreed that we would be good friends, we're really not. sure, i get a greeting on my birthday and during the holidays and i just greeted him on his birthday, but those are about the only times we communicate. and i actually prefer it this way. i'm sure he and his wife now does too.
however, i have a friend whose boyfriend and his ex have become best friends instead. whoa! yes. it's true. it can be done. but, when your ex is your best friend and you tell your best friend things about your current relationship, hmm, you could land yourself in a heap of mess.
so why can't ex's remain friends?
here's some reasons i've read on why the can't:
there's always a heartbreaker and the heartbreakee. same as mentioned above.
you know what they look like underneath all those clothes. you've seen each other naked. whenever you smell their special perfume or cologne, or whenever you hear music that was special to the both of you, you're always going to remember that person and the things you used to do together ( ie, make love, make-out, etc)
you can't divulge intimate details about your current relationship to your ex. it would just be wrong for you to tell your ex you just had the greatest sex of your life with someone else.
bitterness comes into play. an ex can pretend to be a friend, but deep down they'd rather see you and your current partner dead (jk).
jealousy. seriously - who really likes seeing their ex being lovey dovey with someone else anyway?
CAN YOU BE GOOD FRIENDS WITH YOUR EX?
you guys tell me.
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Posted at 4:47 PM

starting off with my tanks evaluation.. lol
look i changed a new light looks brighter now isnt it?
but i almost killed myself the light together with my hand dropped into the tank lol
look at how the tetras have depleted.. now the angels are getting veri dormant with so many
guppies in it.. guess they are fainting arent they? with so many colours darting around..
haha
see the box there? ya its a breeder box.. look carefully u shld be able to see the guppy fry..
if the guppies get overpopulated i have to get my tank below to start working.. lol



here you go the close up of the rare angel in singapore..
the silver diamond scale angelfish..
this is one of my biggest angel currently..
^^

look carefully and you shld be able to see two kitten sleeping in my mum's flower pot
haha they are so cute..
not allowed to bring in as pet.. wat poor thing..
but its a potential danger.. haha
when it get old it might fish my fish away! lol
talk abt fishing.. ever heard of house lizard fishing fish from tanks with their tail?
heard tat from my dad.. his betta all got fished away when his still young living in a kampong
lmao..
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Posted at 1:44 PM

saded..
the guppy mama died.
collapse suddenly.. with a bloody stomach..
and my neon tetras are depleting on a daily basis
left 6 of the neon tetras..
other than that all the rest of the fish are lively and swimming..

and predicting tat 1 of the angel will die..
doesnt want to eat.. already loss of colours..
smallest of all the angels.. what a sad thing but its stubborn..
goin change to a brighter light soon..

finally received my tp confirmation letter..
its time to go down to cmpb to defer..
hope i have a happy polytechnic's life there..
better if can find some true frens there..
instead of someone which i dun wanna name..

`mediocrity is what I describe of him
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Posted at 12:12 AM

this is how my tank has become...
im giving up on tetras if this batch of tetras get killed or eaten up again..
when i have time i will take a picture of my baby guppies..
it gave birth to them while im bringing the guppies home lol
and theres 3 of them but i accidentally drop 1 into the main tank and it disappeared
since then.. most probably eaten by other fish -.-
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Posted at 12:52 AM